4. Tell a secret.
Self-disclosure is probably one of the most impressive approaches. Do you remember your feelings when you opened up about important things in your life — with excitement, voice trembling, and shivers down the spine? When you share some intimate information with other people, they feel your worries and get closer to you. This means that they can confide some of their secrets in you too.
And this is also a science-based fact. The research conducted by several educational institutions showed that students who asked each other private questions developed closer relations compared to groups who did not share any intimate information.
3. Speak at the speed of trust.
Some specialists confirm that the right speed of your speech can help to build trust and not lose your partner’s attention. We believe it would be wrong to say that you have to choose one speech pace and follow it every time. It appears that each situation needs its own rate. For example, fast speaking indicates urgency, excitement, emotion, and passion while a slow tempo helps to focus on importance, the seriousness of a point, or the introduction of a new idea.
2. Casually touch your partner.
It seems that casual touch can also become a powerful catalyst of trust building. A lot of curious and sometimes provocative studies demonstrate its effectiveness. When an attractive man asked for phone numbers from young women on the street, he touched some of them for the sake of science. 19% of the women who were touched (and only 10% of those who were not touched) provided their numbers.
When employing this method keep in mind social and cultural norms. Touch is less likely to have any beneficial effects if you violate personal boundaries.
1. Make it all about them.
We assume that ego suspension is the most difficult way to make someone trust you. When applying this approach, you are supposed to focus on the needs, wants, and perception of reality of another person rather than on your own beliefs. “Most times, when 2 individuals engage in a conversation, each patiently waits for the other person to be done with whatever story he or she is telling. Then, the other person tells his or her own story, usually on a related topic and often times in an attempt to have a better and more interesting story.”
At the next meeting with a new person, try to not focus on yourself and your stories that always kill, but ask questions and show a great interest in your partner. We believe you will be thrilled with the result.
Do you have any problems getting along with people? What technique would you try first?