Trust is a very tricky thing. Our brain takes less than 1 second to decide if we can believe someone or not, but if its decisions were correct, there would be no divorces, destroyed friendships, or cheating. That’s why people tend to be suspicious and not trust anyone they meet immediately. But if you wish to score points with someone, there are some proven methods to do it.
Our team looked through tons of information and picked out the most intriguing tips that can make anyone believe what you say.
8. Show that you like them.
Have you heard about the “reciprocity of liking” phenomenon? It refers to the tendency for people to like someone who likes them. This happens because people feel warmth and support from their partner, and it’s also rewarding to know that you’re likable. So if one day you need to gain someone’s attention, show a positive attitude toward them, and you will be likely to receive the same amount of love.
7. Spill your coffee.
This advice may seem weird. Why do we have to spoil a first impression by making a clumsy mistake? But a lot of studies confirm that pointing out our vulnerability actually increases our attractiveness and trustworthiness.
But there are 2 important facts you should remember. Before telling a bad joke or dropping a pencil you have to be sure that the person is aware of your high performance and credibility. And try not to make yourself vulnerable in a way that questions your reputation. “Psychiatrists can build trust by spilling their coffee and saying, ’I’ve never been very good with my hands.’ Surgeons can’t do that.”
6. Apologize excessively.
Another effective but often forgotten method to build trust is to say, “I am sorry!” Researchers note that this works for situations where you are obviously not at fault. For example, by saying, “I’m sorry about the rain,” you express empathy and regret that something sad has happened to people. You show that you understand their experience, and this considerably increases their belief in you.
5. Act like a monkey.
No, it doesn’t mean you have to eat a lot of bananas or jump on trees. This is about imitating face expressions, gestures, speech patterns, or behavior of your partner. This technique is called mirroring, and it really works.
For example, in the course of this study, waitresses received higher tips when mimicking customers at the restaurant. More research showed that men evaluated women more favorably in speed dating if women repeated verbal and nonverbal behavior of their dates. If you are going to use this method, remember to mirror only positive patterns. It is better not to repeat actions such as looking or turning away.